Ten Commandments of Human Relations (Blogger Edition)

November 11, 2009 | By | 8 Replies More

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For almost a year that I’ve been blogging, I’ve been observing the way bloggers behave and the traits each one project online. The truth is, I may not like everyone and so do you but having tried to please fellow bloggers in my own little way is also worth it.

I have gained friends along the way and I’m thankful that having a bunch would still increase so I thought of maybe coming up with my own version of the Ten Commandments of Human Relations for bloggers. Here’s what I’m able to come up with and I hope you’d enjoy it.

1. Speak to People. Mingle with fellow bloggers. Speak to them online by leaving comments on their blogs or emailing them. Develop the habit of speaking up online because these are the avenues where you can engage in a conversation. Try to network with fellow bloggers offline by attending WordCamps and blogging events. Just don’t forget those business cards, speak up and smile.Aheram, Meet Ron Paul2. Smile at People. Science as documented that you use 72 facial muscles when you frown but only 14 whenever you smile so don’t strain your facial muscles on unhealthy activities instead smile while your writing a post and do it consistently, I’m sure you’ll reap positive results.

3. Call People by Name. It would be rude not to call people by name. On this blog, keywords are not allowed on the comments name field mainly because I would want to be more personal with my approach on every commentator. It’s also showing some respect. So, if you leave a blog with a keyword instead of your name, it simply shows rudeness and disrespect on the blogger.

4. Be Friendly and Helpful. This can be very self-explanatory but oftentimes simple gestures of kindness are not always evident on some bloggers. For some bloggers, you may flaunt it or not that you are well-known, do show some appreciation whenever someone comments on your blog. Join the conversation. I know that some of you write great content and get plenty of visitors and comments but what bothers me is that some of you don’t even reply on the comments thread. It seems that you’re just bragging the numbers and these small promising bloggers don’t even get it. You’re voicing out an opinion without being acknowledged which seems like you’re taking to the hand. Wake up people! These big guys are only after your IP visits and are busy counting your clicks. If they can’t even respond to a comment, that simply means on thing. They don’t care.

5. Be Cordial. It simply means to be polite and sincere while being yourself.

6. Be genuinely interested in People. You can’t please everyone but at least you’ve tried.

7. Be generous with Praise, Cautious with Criticism. Be tactful. Appreciate someone’s writing. You may not like all the blogger’s posts but at least try to impart what you know and share it to the blog post because that is what the comment’s section is intended for.

8. Be Considerate of the Feelings of Others. Hot topics on blogs can spur different feelings and reactions but be mindful of what you’ll say and consider the feelings of those who will read it. If you’re commenting on a controversial topic, watch your words closely so you don’t offend people. You can always have your say but if you feel like it would be a little harsh just post it on your own blog if you have one because there, you can rant all you want.

9. Be Thoughtful of the Opinions of Others. Commenting on blogs is a two-way street. It’s either you end up presenting yourself well or break your online reputation. Your comments are public and whatever people read tells something about you.

10. Be Alert to Give Service. Be always ready to help. Bloggers who offers their advice and shares what they know without asking for anything in return really value relationships. On this blog, I support open source and freeware and I’m open to bloggers who needs help and advice. I even review and feature bloggers for free and I think that’s the best deed that I could do in my own little way.

If you have something to add to the list or just wanted to share your thoughts, please do share it. I’d appreciate it.

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  1. John Samuel says:

    Hi Mathdelane

    Well written post. Normally I write comments without referring to the author’s name. But after reading your post, I think it’s a good idea. So I am starting from here.

    Thanks
    .-= John Samuel ´s last blog ..Happy Birthday Firefox! It’s 5 years of Happy Browsing =-.

  2. Mathdelane says:

    It’s good to have you here, John! Thank you for the compliment and I really do appreciate it. Cheers for a great start!

  3. Nathaniel Ong says:

    Nice list you got here Math. Simple yet effective.
    .-= Nathaniel Ong´s last blog ..Is Entrance Security False Security? =-.

  4. Mathdelane says:

    Hey Nathz, glad you liked the list. Thanks!

  5. Sire says:

    Mathdelane, a well structured post that is also very educational. As you know I always sign my name as Sire, which although it is not a keyword, it isn’t my real name, but to honor this post I will end it with my real name.

    Oh, I will still use Sire, but for this post I respectfully sign it as

    Peter
    .-= Sire´s last blog ..The Myth That DoFollow Leaches Your PR =-.

  6. Mathdelane says:

    Thanks Sire, I’m glad you liked it. I really appreciate your comments and coming from the top commentator on this blog, it’s really flattering.

  7. Sire says:

    So I am, honestly I didn’t even noticed, and I am somewhat surprised.
    .-= Sire´s last blog ..The Myth That DoFollow Leaches Your PR =-.

  8. Mathdelane says:

    Thanks for consistently being here, Sire.

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